I’m not ashamed to admit I enjoy casual sex.
I’m also not ashamed to admit I’ve slept with a lot of men.
What does that make me? Who cares, is my honest answer. Everything today can be sexualised. I just enjoy sex with people I don’t know.
I’ve been meeting people online for sex since 2010. I’m now 40.
I was married in my 20s to a lovely man who turned out to be gay. So, my story has been something of a rollercoaster.
Meeting men online for sex is something I do every month or so. I’m no hardcore romper who stalks the forums and picks up a new man every night.
I masturbate like most normal people, and when my sexual urges peak, I head online to somewhere like Meet For Sex and search for someone I want to have sex with.
I then start a chat with them and things lead to the bedroom.
If you are thinking about meeting a man online for sex, I’d like to share with you 5 tips from the horse’s mouth (so to speak). I’ve done it before and I’m still doing it now.
So, without further ado, let’s begin.
1. Discuss penis size
Let’s get this important tip out of the way right away – penis size matters, but only because we ladies have vaginas of all shapes and sizes ourselves.
For myself, I like it average. Between 5.5 and 6.5 inches is fine for me so long as he has some girth. I’m small and I really don’t like being stretched.
You might enjoy a much bigger penis, or you might not care about penis size at all – but you should discuss it openly regardless.
Think of it this way – the bloke’s penis is where the good stuff happens. You want to know what you’re getting yourself in for.
By discussing penis size openly, you can make sure your man is a perfect match for your sexual needs.
2. Ask for a recent photo
I always ask the man I’m meeting online for sex for a recent photo.
I do this for three reasons:
- To confirm he is who he says he is
- To make sure I’m actually attracted to him
You might want a photo to confirm the size of his penis. This is fine most of the time, but some men are shy (which is cute).
3. Reveal your favourite toys
Adult toys make hooking up for sex far more interesting. Whether we’re talking vibrators, cock rings or anal beads, they make things fun.
Personally, I really like anal beads and warming lube. You might like massive dildos and vibrators.
Whatever your kink, it’s all good – just make sure you reveal these things so the bloke knows to bring them (or what he’s in for).
4. Establish your boundaries
You don’t want to find yourself handcuffed to a bed because you didn’t tell the man you’re meeting for sex you’re squeamish.
You also don’t want to find yourself in a dangerous or stressful situation if you are into bondage and BDSM.
The simplest way to make sure you don’t get hurt and your sex is amazing is to discuss boundaries before you meet.
You should tell the man what you don’t like and you should ask them the same question. This will help keep your sex safe, consensual, and enjoyable.
5. Meet somewhere you can clean up beforehand
Take this as a first-person tip – you want to meet in a place where you can grab a shower first.
If you’re wondering why, in 2018, I met a man for sex in the summer. It was baking outside and we enjoyed a walk in a park before having sex in some bushes — well, that’s what would have happened, except….
…. except the guy smelled badly of BO and his hands were filthy. It was absolutely dreadful. Anyway, I made a great excuse to leave and I got out of there.
No hard or hurt feelings (these things happen).
I now know from experience that you should always meet for sex somewhere you can grab a shower first. A hotel is the best place (try not to do it at home as it can be unsafe).
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